Hi Admin, please post for me. The stories of men cheating or doing hurtful things to their spouses have become too much everywhere. I wonder if I’m in the same Ghana. All the men in my life have been very responsible. I don’t know if it’s luck. My late younger sister and her husband were childhood friends and they started dating early. My father, a retired soldier was against it because he thought they were too young and he wanted them to at least enter the University first. But with time, even he gave up. My brother-in-law was so respectful and well-mannered. He was a real gentleman. I remember he will visit us and help my mum in the kitchen and he wasn’t even pretending. Our family grew very fond of him, so when he and my sister finished school, they got married right after. I always say that God knew what will happen and so he made sure they’ll start a family early before my sister died.
They were married for 8 years and had 2 children. My sister got breast cancer just like that. It was a shock to all of us because she was the most health-conscious amongst all of us. She went for normal screening at church and she was told to go for further checks because the doctor suspected it after examining her. Only God knows the nightmare she and her husband went through. Her second child was only two years at that time. I saw how my brother-in-law was struggling with keeping the home balanced, especially when my sister got very ill. The cancer spread in her system and at a point, we were told she had less than a year to live. That was when she became very weak and my brother-in-law was doing everything. I was working in Accra, but as her only sister, I had to be coming to Kumasi on weekends to help her husband. The man did very well.
He took care of the children, he cooked, he did house chores, he fed his wife and cleaned her up and still managed to be going to work. My dad had to come and stay with them to keep my sis company when her husband went to work and the children were in school. At that time, our mother had already passed. I like to tell this story a lot because I have never seen a man who loved his wife like my brother-in-law loved my sister. The day she died, we all knew it was coming, but this man mourned her for a long time. He refused to marry too. The kids were young and he focused entirely on taking care of them. Not once did I see him complain about anything. He did it all with love. After my sister’s death, we maintained a good friendship and the children were going to visit my father on weekends and then Daddy also passed away. I got married later, but once a while I was checking up on my brother-in-law and even encouraging him to find someone and marry because I know my sister would have wanted that.
He said he was too busy thinking about raising the two boys my sister left behind and he didn’t want any woman to come and stress him or the children. October was my sister’s 15 years of leaving the earth. Her two sons are now both in the University. Her husband and his new found love are planning to marry in January. The woman is also a widow he met in church and she also has her own children. Now a lot of people praise him for being a good man and raising his children alone and all that. But some of us saw him when times were very hard. When the children were so young and he could have left my sick sister. I learnt a lot from how he treated my sister and it gave me hope that good men are really out there. Thanks to God, I also found a good man in my husband.
I read every story on this page and I can really say that bad news sells. I know that a lot of people are in good relationships and marriages and don’t see the need in sharing. It is those who have problems that bring it here and that is understandable. I am sharing some good news too so that you know that there is really true love. Good men exist, good women also exist. Don’t dismiss the possibility of finding someone who will not break your heart because I can say that I had a good father. My brothers have not been promiscuous. My brother-in-law is a real gentleman and my husband is also a very good man so I am trying to raise my children well.
If you’re single, start praying about your future spouse ooo. That thing really works and I’m not even joking. Wherever my sis is, I know she is happy. The man she left her children with did a very good job and finally he is moving on. My brothers and I are so happy for him that we will attend the wedding. I prayed for him that he will get someone to make him happy and God answered. I know this is not the usual relationship things you read about but I believe this will touch somebody. This is also my own way of honouring my sister’s memory and hoping that at least people learn from it. Please share Admin.