Admin you people are doing a good job ooo God bless you. Hmmm my story may even sound funny for some people but it is on my heart paaa and it’s serious to me and I hope I get a comment that will help me decide on what to do. So these two men are both interested in me. Both of them are old classmates and we are all the same age which is 36. None of us have a child or have ever been married. There was this get-together we did after one of our mate’s wedding and it was like very few of us were still single and our other mates were all teasing us with the marriage thing. So fast forward I exchanged contacts with a lot of my mates who I didn’t have their contacts previously. These two guys I am talking about were part. Since the day we exchanged contacts, they haven’t left me alone.
Both of them are in well-paying jobs and are comfortable. The first guy has the physical looks. He is thick-tall and dark with a nice beard like that. We went on a date and when I asked him why he was still single, he said some of the ladies don’t believe he is single. The way he is too, others think he is a player. He is a people person. He has a lot of friends everywhere he goes so I was also finding it difficult to accept him. People like this erh, they wont have time for you. If they go out with you, they will leave you and go and chat with other people. We have gone out a couple of times and he has done that to me. One of his friends was opening his shop and the first man invited me to go with him. He was so popular. Everyone was shouting him here and there and he left me alone for hours. Meanwhile I don’t know anyone at the place too.
Another guy approached me when he saw I was alone and he was chatting with me and keeping me company and we were chatting. I saw that the man wasn’t interested in me, it was just normal chatting and he didn’t even ask for my number. The first guy, let me just call him Emmanuel. So Emmanuel returned and he saw that I was talking to someone and he got angry. Meanwhile I have not even agreed to be in a relationship with him. I told him we should go out as friends and see. When we got back from the place he was giving me silent treatment all because I was talking to another man. Meanwhile he was all over the place hugging other women and chatting them. What type of selfishness is this? I was even surprised. So I asked him. “What about the many ladies you were hugging?” He didn’t mind me ooo. He just dropped me off at my house and drove off angrily.
So the second classmate, let me call him Enoch. So Enoch is not bad-looking himself. He is fair and slim and not so tall. Just a little taller than me. If it was just physical looks, I will go for Emmanuel because he is my spec. But Enoch is a good man. He is considerate and kind and he cares deeply for me. I have also been going out with him as a friend and he is a real gentleman. He will insist on opening the door for you and he can even cook for you. He is very quiet and calm, very opposite of Emmanuel. He took me to the wedding of one of his colleagues at work and he didn’t leave me one moment. He was even introducing me to his workmates as his ‘good friend’. He likes to hold hands when he is with you and he will always ask for your opinion before he does something. He makes me feel so important.
But Emmanuel is also too soft. As a woman, I am even more brave than him. We were watching an emotional movie and by the time I saw, Emmanuel had tears in his eyes. Ei! The man is too emotional. One time he was asking me when I will accept him and marry him because we are growing and he really loves me. He was just telling me this naaaa then tears were in his eyes. He has been through a lot. 8 years ago, a woman he was going to marry died a few months to the wedding and it made him shut himself off from women and focus on doing his Masters and now he is doing his Phd. The first time he narrated the death of his fiance to me, he cried like a baby and I had to console him. He is too emotional as a man and I am wondering if maybe he hasn’t gotten over his fiance.
These are two men I have been going out with as friends for the past 8 months. I want my husband to be 1 of them. I haven’t done anything s*xual with any of them. I need help to choose. I am too mature to be jumping from one man to another. I am doing my own work too so it’s not like I am looking for someone to come and take care of me. If not for Emmanuel’s selfishness and serious jealousy I would have accepted him by now. He couldn’t even apologize to me and he just messaged me weeks after giving me the silent treatment as if nothing happened. When I tried to talk about it, he said he doesn’t like discussing things that have happened in the past. Enoch too is really a good man. He treats me so well and I have seen how he speaks to his parents and respects them. But the man is too soft ei. He can cry for Ghana. How can such a man console me when I am crying or even protect me? Hmmm please I will be reading comments.