I have dated this guy for 1 and half years, but it was just recently that I met his mother for the first time. He works as a cooperate MC in events. I’m also into event and wedding decorations. It happened that some years ago, we worked closely in a wedding and that’s how we met. We have joined resources and if someone is doing an event and he or she needs an MC, I recommend him and he does the same thing when they’re looking for someone to do the decor. I used to be a little jealous because my boyfriend is one of one of those MCs on Instagram with huge following and I see how the girls are all over him, but he has proven his loyalty towards me and I’m learning to trust him.
Apart from his work and the many ladies around him, I also noticed that he is very close with his mum. Before I met my potential mother-in-law, my boyfriend told me so much about her. He brings her in conversations easily and they can’t go a single day without chatting with each other. I was concerned that he was one of those mummy’s boys, but I realized that even though he was close with his mum and he calls her often, he was also independent. His mum doesn’t interfere in his life. I think my only concern is that he can leave his rented apartment and go and stay with his mum for days because she wants that. My guy is an only child and his father died when he was just a child, so it’s normal for him to be that close to his mum.
I was a bit nervous when he suggested we go and meet his mum. I knew that I had to make her like me. I dressed decently and he came to pick me up, then we went. His mum was really friendly to me and we were all chatting and watching a Nollywood movie so I felt free. It became routine after that. She was the one who was even telling her son to be inviting me over. My boyfriend has also met my parents and the way things are going, it looks like we will end up getting married. Some days ago, I went to the market and bought a few foodstuffs for home. I decided to buy some yam and vegetables for my guy’s mum just to surprise her and make her happy.
So I passed by her place with the foodstuffs and I even helped her in peeling the yams and cooking. She insisted that I should stay and eat some of the food we had cooked so I didn’t say no to it. The conversation was cool until she started becoming serious and telling me that if her son is to marry me, I have to make sure she stays with us. I didn’t know what to say because I felt like it was too early for all of this and it was strange how she suddenly changed and became very serious whiles she was telling me that. Apart from that, she said her son and her share a very strong bond and she wants me to know before I ever think of accepting to marry him if he requests for marriage. Then she told me she wants a lot of granchildren so I should also prepare to have a lot of kids although she didn’t specify the number. She caught me off guard with all of this so I didn’t even say anything.
Now I have been thinking about what she told me. I told my mother about it and she wants me to end the relationship immediately. She believes some women can marry their sons spiritually and that this could be the case. She says I will never be happy in such a marriage and it’s good the woman has warned me. I haven’t told my boyfriend any of this yet. We haven’t had any serious issues in the relationship and I am deeply in love with him. My mother is now urging me to end it and I don’t know the next decision to take now.