Hi please I need help with what to do. I am getting married in four months and my husband-to-be just found out what I did a year ago and he is threatening to end everything because of that. We have been together for three years and I have never been more sure about someone in my life. This guy is too good and if he leaves me I don’t know how I’ll be able to live my life. I was at work break last week and he called that he wanted us to talk so he will come and pick me when I close, so I said okay. When he came, I saw the look on his face and I knew all was not well but I had completely forgotten about what I had done because it was a year ago and I didn’t even know he will find out.
Last year, some friends and I organised a party. My guy was busy at that time, I would have gone with him. The way he was acting all busy I didn’t tell him at all because I didn’t have any bad intentions. I just wanted to go out and have fun. It was a pool party. I went with two females. My best friend at the time and a lady from her workplace she came with. We indeed had fun, swimming and drinking and dancing and all that. This guy approached me and he was very nice. We vibed throughout the party and later when they opened the club, he paid the entrance fee for us to go and dance small. My friends were also with other guys so we didn’t bother ourselves.
I danced with the guy for a long time. We were both drunk and somehow we left the club. He took me to a guest house in the area and he chop me. Hmmm I was so drunk and I really regret it. Afterwards, he tried calling me many times to meet at the same place again but I blocked him. I regretted my actions and I wish I had never done that. My best friend and I are those friends that share everything. We both have secrets we don’t tell anyone and I needed someone to talk to about what happened. Now the thing is, when I was going to the guest house with guy, my friend called me that they were leaving and I told them I had met someone I knew so they could go.
But later I told my bestfriend what happened and he suggested it was one of those secrets we shouldn’t talk about. She told me it was better my boyfriend doesn’t find it and I agreed with her. I have tried to forget that day and I and my boyfriend have been happy together. Can you people believe that my friend was the one who told my guy last week? We have not even quarrelled or anything for her to get angry with me to spill the beans like that. I don’t know if it is because of jealousy or if she likes my guy. The way my guy asked me about the pool party I couldn’t deny it. He went straight to ask me why I would cheat on him after all we have done together. I was trying to deny it, but I was so caught off guard that he saw it and I had to cry and beg him that it happened just once and I have never done it again.
Now he hasn’t told me what he will do. He is ignoring me and telling me to give him some time to process it. He won’t even take my calls and I don’t know what to do. I went to my friend’s house and we had a very heated argument. She is no more my friend but I know he chats with my guy. I don’t know how to get him back. The wedding is in 4 months. We have already bought the rings and some other things. I am so depressed right now.