I’ve been wanting to share my story for a while. There are times when I will type and then clear everything that I have typed because I changed my mind and felt that even though this platform is anonymous, I would still feel exposed. But I want to share.
I am a musician. I would consider myself an upcoming one, not underground. I have had a few hit songs that have been played in certain areas in Accra. I am not a very popular musician, but those who know me, know me. I have a number of music videos and I live a very outgoing life. We (my team and I) go on parties, events, clubs every weekend and when I started out, I wanted to produce motivational and Inspirational songs. In Ghana, this particular genre has not been explored much in my opinion. We hardly have exclusively inspirational artistes and I wanted to focus on that. But the manager who signed me told me that afrobeat songs sell, and as an upcoming artiste, I needed to put something out there which sells to increase my popularity. I heeded to his advice.
Now, I feel like I am in an abyss. I have slept with every video vixen in my music videos. We pay some of them peanuts for dancing in the videos. For some, they are just excited at the mere idea of appearing in a music video. Others accept payment in kind. I want to issue a disclaimer that I am not speaking on behalf of all musicians in Ghana. This is my personal experience, and I want to share it to clear my head. The first dancer I slept with was only 19. She was an SHS dropout who hanged around musicians because she herself wanted to be a superstar. The guys used to talk about how easy it was to have sex with her. I thought it was a joke.
But just after appearing in my first music video, she gave herself to me in one of the hotels we were lodging in at Takoradi. Since I was introduced to this lifestyle, It has basically been like a normal thing to me. The girls are there to service us and we had to make sure we make the most out of it and have fun. I come from a fairly religious home. At least we had an unwritten moral code. My parents expected that my sisters and I would be good and act right. I have lost count of the number of dancers I have slept with and I feel like I have lost myself in all of the ‘fun’ I thought I was having. I entered the music industry with a clear plan and the type of music I wanted to be known for.
My long time girlfriend even left me because she suspected I was involved with some of the dancers. There are a lot of wild things that I have done. But I just want to unburden myself with this particular experience because it is eating me up.