Abena (Not real name) and I dated for a year in UG. I was two years ahead of her and I kind of ghosted her when I completed the school. I was a 22 year old immature guy at that time and I wasn’t really serious about her. She was about 19 or 20 years at that time and those girls always gave themselves to those in the higher levels on campus so I took advantage of the September rush when I was in level 300. I was hanging around the Great Hall when the freshers were doing the orientation and I met her through that. I helped her with her course registration and all of those stuff and through that I moved her and she accepted. It was easier than I thought it will be. I don’t really know if I liked her at that time, but I remembered that I wasn’t a serious guy then and I regret it. I have changed a lot since that time and I regret doing that and the many other promiscious things me and my friends did on campus. Maybe later I will share some other things I did on campus.
So the thing is, Abena was not the only fresher I moved to around that time. There were two other freshers who accepted my proposal and after having s*x with them a few times, I ghosted them but the Abena girl was the one who kept coming back to beg that she loves me so I kept her on the side cos she gave me s*x anytime I needed it so I was cool. After graduation, I took her on a date and after that I took her to my hostel and we did it like twice. I knew I was moving out and it was me saying goodbye, but I didn’t tell her I was breaking up. I made her believe we were still together. Afterwards I blacklisted her and blocked her on social media. I have lived a very wild lifestyle after that. I can’t count the girls I have been with. I was doing all the clubbing and fun. But when I was 27, something happened to me that really changed my life.
My friends and I were travelling to another region for fun and we had an accident. We were four in the car. Two of my friends died, including the driver. My other friend who survived had his legs amputated. I was the only one who had few injuries and I came out of the accident whole. Alive and not missing any body part. That really changed me and I stopped my crazy lifestyle and got serious. Old friends meet me and they can’t believe I am the same person. But life happened. I also lost my dad a year after the accident and all of a sudden it looked like everything was against me. Life became very tough for me. I am now turning 29 in a few weeks and I recently met Abena at a church program I attended. She was one of the backup singers.
Back on campus, I knew she was singing in the choir then, but I didn’t care about religion at that time so it didn’t matter to me. She was looking more mature and pretty and I waited to speak to her after the program. When she saw me she said she didn’t want to have anything to do with me again and she almost created a scene. I have realized that she is the only girl I have truly liked even when I didn’t admit it. She is the one I have dated longest and after the accident I had two years ago, I have not dated any girl. I went back to unblock her on Facebook and texted her on messenger. I can see that she sees all my messages, but ignores me. I wish she can just forgive me. Even if she never dates me again, I want to be okay with myself, knowing that she has forgiven me. But I am also willing to fight for her love again and I need some advice on what to do. She is breaking my heart everyday because she ignores my messages and I don’t know what to do.
