He claims he loves me but his attitude is the opposite of what he says. We have two kids and I feel like I am tired of the marriage. My husband has been cheating and I don’t know how far I can tolerate this. I just feel like I have gotten to my breaking point. A part of me also feels like I am being selfish and not thinking about the children. When it comes to them, he is a very committed father and he invests in all things pertaining to them. This is one of the reasons why I have stayed. But after twelve years of being taken for granted, I am done. I’m just tired of him and all the lies. I have cried enough and I just want my freedom from him.
Can you guys believe he cheated on me with my friend? This happened only five years into our marriage. I was heavily pregnant with our second child and I found out that my husband was cheating with one of my friends. She was a work colleague who was visiting me a lot. Not knowing all the time she was visiting, my husband was wooing her. Sometimes she will come and visit and my husband will offer to drop her off as a kind gesture. The pregnancy was stressing me too much to even read anything into it. I would have lost that pregnancy and it would have been my husband’s fault. I had planned on divorcing her after giving birth. But you should have seen how his family and my own family asked me to stop being too stiff-necked and just forgive him. My own mother told me it’s in the nature of men to cheat so I should make sure I do my wifely duties well so that he doesn’t look elsewehere.
I was trying to protect my mental health so I ignored all the other signs he was cheating on me even when I knew. I was focusing on the kids because at a point they were the only reason I was holding on to this marriage. My husband would tell me he loves me but his attitude and actions were just different from what his mouth professes. I saw how extremely protective he was over his phone. How he would excuse himself and chat in a very low voice you wouldn’t hear anything when you’re even next to him. Sometimes he would receive a call and you can see how tensed he is. He will answer and tell the person he will call her back later. I noticed all of this in silence.
But the last straw and the last mistake he made was to go after my very close friend. She and I have been friends for years. Right from Senior High School. She would have been my maid of honour if she was in the country when I was getting married. Thankfully, my friend has shown true loyalty to me when she showed me the chats between my husband and her. While I was home trying my best to be a good wife, my husband was in my best friend’s whatsapp dm begging her to send her n*des. Telling her he will take very good care of her. My husband has sent her pictures of his p*nis and I was even shocked at how relentless he was in her dm. You would think he has been starved of s*x for years. Meanwhile this is not the case. I have confronted my husband with the chats and he hasn’t denied it. Instead he keeps begging me to stay, claiming he still loves me and he doesn’t know why he keeps doing that. He is trying to play smart by telling me to help him see a psychologist because he loves me. Is this love? You don’t hurt someone you claim to love this way. I am done with him this time and not even my mother or his family can convince me otherwise.
