I feel burdened. I don’t even know how to go about this or begin this. But I have lied and cheated on my husband and I feel like he is on the verge of finding out. I’m a 42-year-old woman and my husband is 48. We have been married for twelve years with three children. Seven years ago, we moved out of Ghana to Australia and that is where we currently stay. The thing is, I love sex very much and my husband’s sex drive has been affected by the stress of working in a foreign country. I am a professional nanny and my work is not as stressful as my husband’s who works long hours as a hotel attendant. He is always tired, and the thing is, he is also advancing in age and I don’t enjoy sex with him anymore.
It’s a very strange phenomenon that the moment you start looking for ways to satisfy your built up sexual desires, you find them easily. There are many dating apps here. In fact, many of them are so easy to use and safe. Foreigners are more open and forward about what they want. I started hooking up with some people behind my husband’s back. For many, it was all about the sex. There were no strings attached. Some were equally married men and they didn’t want their wives to know just as I didn’t want my husband to know about it. I was on a couple of dating apps for a while until I met this very good looking black man. I immediately sent a message and he replied in a few minutes. I was in Sydney, he was in Melbourne. It was quite a distance, but there was something about him and I didn’t want to let him go. We started doing video calls and the moment I heard him speak, I knew he was Ghanaian.
Indeed he was. He opened up to me and told me a lot of his struggles in Australia. For certain reasons, I will restrain myself from giving such details. Long story short, he was a stranded Ghanaian in a foreign land. Apart from the fact that he was very attractive and I wanted to have sex with him, his story really touched me and I wanted to help him. So I cooked up a plan and told my husband that a distant relative was living here in Australia and I had no idea about it until recently. I told him he was from my mother’s side and I therefore didn’t even know him. (My mother died when I was only 5 and my dad raised me, so I don’t know a lot of relatives from my mother’s side of the family and my husband knows this.) I started persuading my husband to invite him over and see if he can stay with us for a while so he can sought himself out and maybe get a job. I could see my husband didn’t like the idea but I was very persistent and persuasive. In the end he gave in. All this while, I had told the young man about my plans of making him stay with us and he was very excited. He is 24 years old. He joined us in our apartment. He is indeed a very hardworking guy. He always felt indebted to us so he worked hard to make amends. He did the chores and helped prepare the kids for school. I had a lot of free time on my hands because of him and when it was just the two of us at home, we had sex and did very freaky things.
Now, we have been doing this for three months. Previously, my husband didn’t suspected a thing. Before the young man arrived, I told him the story to tell my husband. He was the grandson of my mother’s cousin. The whole thing has worked for the past three months. But my husband has started chatting with him a lot, asking him details about my mother’s side of the family and I feel like he will soon discover my lies. Right now, the guy has no where to go and I have also fallen in love with him. Young men are very strong in bed and I want him here. I don’t have enough money to rent an apartment nearby for him to stay. I am in a fix.
