I had gotten a job in a particular area and I kept looking for a place close by to rent, but I wasn’t getting. The agents also wasted my money on viewing fee because the rooms I went to view did not appeal to me and at a point I was frustrated. Then I saw a post on Facebook. It was in one of the rent groups I had joined. The person had a 2 bedroom self-contained house and he wanted to rent out one bedroom. Each bedroom had toilet and bath. He wasn’t an agent. I called the number immediately and met with him that evening. The place was a very cool place and it was a nice house. The price he was offering to me was also very good and after negotiating, he agreed that I can pay six months advance instead of the year advance.
So I didn’t waste much time. I packed my things during the weekend and came to stay with him. The plan of the house was such that the rooms were not next to each other. The kitchen separated our rooms and he was a real gentleman. He never did or said anything inappropraite to me. He has a girlfriend. The lady visted often and she was a bit hostile towards me. I used to hear them argue over me. She would ask him why a lady was staying with him when she told him to get a male roommate instead. The argument would go on for long. They may think the kitchen separating us would shield me from hearing them. But I hear everything. The arguments intensified after a while and then she stopped visiting. Out of curiosity, I asked him about his girlfriend and he told me they had broken up.
I felt responsible and guilty, I even suggested I can move out so they patch things up. But he refused. He said he liked my company and that he enjoyed my cooking. I don’t always cook for him. But once in a while when I cook enough, I serve him some. He usually gives me very nice compliments. When I dress for work, he would compliment me and wink at me anytime he would see me leave. At a point I was waiting for him to propose to me because he was so nice to me. Not in a flirty way, but just genuinely nice. I brushed it off with the assumption hat he was naturally like that and he wasn’t interested in dating me. One day I returned from work only to hear him and his girlfriend giggling in his room. I later found out they had patched things up.
His girlfriend and I just greet each other when we meet in the house. But the whole thing is so strained. The last straw was when she warned me to leave the house and stay away from her guy. She called me very offensive names but I just maintained my composure. I asked why she wouldn’t come and stay in the house and she told me her parents wouldn’t allow that until they were married. Now I am wondering if I should leave the house. My six months is almost up. The house is very convenient for me and finding another place to rent is a whole different issue. The guy is a real gentleman but his girlfriend comes around, I feel like I am walking on eggshells. I feel like I am coming between the love they share although it’s in a passive way. I told him I would want to leave the house. His response shocked me. He knelt down infront of me to beg me not to do that. He says he enjoys my company and cannot live very peacefully with anyone else like he lives with me. He says not even his girlfriend gives him such peace. He keeps giving out mixed signals. Are some men this way? Do we have men who just want you around as good friends or companions but do not have any intentions of getting sexual with you?
