Marrying a former womanizer comes with a lot of problems. Many times we are aware of the problems we may encounter in a marriage but we seem to be too deeply in love and so much into the other person that we forget that the feeling will not last forever, Some of the issues may remain for years. My husband is a changed man. I know that. He is very transparent with me and allows me to go through his phone if I want to. That is how open we have become to each other. When we were dating he told me he was initially playing around with me like he had done to so many girls in the past. He didn’t believe in long term commitment and love. When he made this confession, I broke up with him.
But through a lot of instances, he proved to me that he has changed and I accepted him back. We dated for 4 years. He hasn’t done anything to make me regret marrying him. The issue is with his exes. He already has two kids with two different women. This was before he met me and apart from that, we have run into some of his other exes at different places. My husband is a professional DJ, and sometimes I go with him to weddings and events when he is working. I am naturally not the jealous type, but it would be stupid of me to not be concerned about how often ladies flirt with him. It looks like some of his exes target places he performs and attend those events just to flirt with him. They know he is married. But they wont leave him alone.
His baby mamas have sent me some very derogatory messages on instagram about me being a man snatcher and how my husband will always be a womanizer. I have received anonymous calls of women telling me that I will never enjoy my marriage, that he will leave me and break my heart like he did to them. I have told my husband several times and he just brushes them off as nothing. He tells me not to worry and its just one of those consequences from his past. I don’t know how his exes got my number in the first place and I hate that I am the one they are attacking instead of the man who gave them the heartbreak.
Our marriage is barely a year old and I just got pregnant. This issue is really eating me up because I don’t know if I will be able to endure the wrath of all of these women. Especially since my husband thinks I am overreacting. I feel so alone as if I am the only one in a fight with my husband’s exes. I receive threats on social media from different women now. I have kept all of the messages just in case I will need them for the future. I am just wondering if I am being paranoid or if I am doing the right thing. Some of the threats are very serious. A blank Facebook profile sent “You will not have children since your husband made me abort 2 children and broke up with me later. Karma is real” I asked my husband about this particular message and he confirmed it. But he says he has changed. I believe him. We all make past mistakes and it shouldn’t be the reason we can’t be happy in the future.
I plan on leaving social media for a while. At least to ensure that I don’t see the messages they send to my inbox. But I sell clothes. Most of my customers are online and it will greatly affect my business. So leaving social media may not be the way to go. Should I report to the police? Am I overreacting?