I hope this story finds you well admin. Hmmm, even where to start from is a problem. I got married in 2011, this year marked my 11th year of marriage. We were married for years and no child was coming. So I started going from this fertility clinic to that fertility clinic and they all said there is nothing wrong with me and I can give birth. I started trying to persuade my husband to go to the clinic with me just to check himself. Every time I bring up the topic, he will get furious and throw tantrums like a child, so I stopped talking about it. But I don’t like the way his family kept treating me as if I am the one expected to mould a baby and place it in my womb. It became too much for me and I couldn’t handle it. I wanted to leave the marriage but my parents were also saying for better for worse.
The pressure from his family even got to him and his father found a young girl for him to marry as second wife. He was complaining, telling me how much he hated the idea. He wasn’t even happy when his family went to do the knocking. My husband couldn’t stand up to his own father. Since I’m Mrs, they did only a traditional wedding and the girl came to stay with us as a second wife. They got married 3 years ago, up till now, no show. One day I asked my husband if maybe the problem was from him and he didn’t want anyone to know. Sometimes he behaves like he knows he has a problem. He wasn’t expecting any of his wives to get pregnant and he rotates with who he sleeps with. At first I was very angry about my husband bringing home another woman. But it lessened some load on me and the girl is now my friend.
When I spoke to my husband, he didn’t say anything. He was so quiet. There was something he couldn’t tell me and I saw that. The family has been silent and I’m wondering if they will marry another woman for him to see if he will be able to impregnate her. Maybe the third time will prove that he is the issue. Now this is my confession. I am a 41 year old woman. I am nearing menopause and I want a child. My mother got her menopause early, at 45. By the way things were going, my husband wasn’t showing any willingness to go to a clinic. If it was the other way round, he would have forced me to go and they will say I am the woman, and I should respect my husband. But some men can be so difficult to live with. My husband doesn’t show me a little respect. One day we were arguing over the issue of childbirth and I angrily told him that his decision not to go to the hospital to check himself is pushing me into another man’s arms. He said he doesn’t care what I do, but it was out of anger.
I have gone for a lot of prayer meetings and miracle services and nothing has come out of it. Early this year, I gave in to this man who has been chasing me for years. He knows I’m married but he doesn’t care. He is also a married man. I didn’t have s*x with him out of love, it was because I want a child. This man has been able to do what my husband couldn’t do for 11 years. After just 3 attempts, I am pregnant. It even feels like a dream. I didn’t intend for things to turn out this way. I haven’t told the actual father and I haven’t told my husband. Knowing my husband, he is very proud and he can even go as far as asking me to abort it because the baby is not his. Meanwhile, you also cannot give me a child.
The man is married with kids but he is very rich and I’m sure he will let me keep the child. I don’t know how his wife will react. I also want to divorce and raise my child as a single mother. I will be happier that way because I am not happy in this marriage of two wives and no children where your husband’s relatives spread rumours as if it’s your fault. I don’t even want people to think it is my husband’s baby upon all the humiliation I have suffered because of his problem and how proud he is. As a husband, he can’t even chat and share his problems with his wife. What will you do if you were in my shoes right now? I haven’t told anyone I’m pregnant. Not even my family. I am still seeing the man who impregnated me although he has travelled shortly so we talk more online.