I’m supposed to be marrying on 29th October. My fiance and I have gone through all the necessary things we have to do. We did counselling six months at his church and another six months at mine. We have dated for five years and I am very sure of this man. Our families know each other and my dad used to get along with my husband-to-be until recently. Now my parents are calling off the wedding. They have spoken to his family and they have returned the things he brought to do the knocking. He wants to keep fighting for me because our love is strong, but the way marriage is in Ghana, two people cannot tie the knot without family approval. I feel like we are both stuck right now. Not knowing exactly what to do next.
Just last week, my dad came to visit us at my fiance’s place. He was passing by the area and came to check on him. I was with him at that time. When my dad came in, my man was wearing singlet and shorts. He has an eagle tattoo on his shoulder and my dad has never seen it before because anytime he visits my parents, his shoulders are covered. So it was the first time my dad saw the tattoo. He just asked him what it meant and my fiance explained to him that he likes tattoos and they all had meaning to him and he is a naturally artistic person. I know he has tattoos on his lower back and behind his thighs, just beneath his butt. We have spoken about the tattoos and I don’t have a problem with them. My guy is a very good guy and he has the qualities I am looking for in a husband, both physically and in character.
My dad met me home later and told me to leave him. He and my mum said it’s the intervention of God that they found out about the tattoos before we got married. They are saying all soughts of things like anyone who has tattoos will go to hell. I don’t believe in all of that. My guy is a serious christian guy and I don’t see how tattoos can affect our marriage life in anyway. Having tattoos hasn’t affected his relationship with God. He spoke to me about the tattoos within a few months of dating and I was the one who even escorted him to do his last tattoo around last year. When the issue came up, I told my parents and they started telling me that the man has influenced me and they thank God that I haven’t had one yet. My parents were not reasoning with me so the conversation didn’t end well.
I made time and went to speak to his parents. They know about the tattoos, they don’t really see anything wrong. To them, their son is 35 and he is old enough to decide what he wants to do with his life. Now that my parents have returned the shnapps they brought for the knocking, I don’t know what to do. I’m 33 years and I have dated this man for 5 years. I cannot let go. What do I do? He said we should get two friends and do a court wedding so that they will be our witnesses. He said we should have a baby. That way, my parents will have no choice but to accept us. But after going through all the marriage counselling, I don’t think it’s the right thing to do. I want us to start the marriage well. That is all I have wanted. Any advice for me and my man? We will be reading your comments. For now, we have been sneaking and meeting eachother like some teenagers and it’s so annoying. The wedding rings and everything are there too…hmmm
