As a 42-year-old married woman with 4 kids and a very busy life, cheating was the last thing on my mind. Many times I am too stress to allow my own husband to have s*x with me, not to talk of going out to look for s*x in the hands of another man. I’m a bank teller and apart from that, I do catering services which is usually on the weekends. My husband’s work is also busy, he used to take breaks from work to go and pick the children from school before he returns. He was doing this until he was promoted at work. He couldn’t be taking breaks at that time and leave office so we decided to look for a driver.
Our first born is in SHS, second in JHS. Last two in the primary. We needed a driver for those in the primary. That was when we spoke to a man in our area whose kids also go to the same school. He already had a driver and we wanted our children to join. He introduced us to the driver and everything and we negotiated the monthly price he will be taking for bringing our kids home and taking them to school. It was even my husband who handled all of that so I hadn’t met the driver then. I met him the first time when I was on leave. Hmmm, I’m a mature woman and I’ve seen very nice looking young men. But this guy is something else. I didn’t imagine such a fine man working as a driver. He was well-dressed and he was very neat. My leave was a one month one and I formed a friendship with him through that.
Every morning when he comes for the kids, I’ll be the one who will open the gate for him. Then we started chatting on whatsapp. I wasn’t surprised when he told me he was a graduate. I tried to stop the friendship when I saw where it was going. I really tried, please don’t judge me. But the more I tried, the more I got drawn to him. Hmmm, we started an affair and I got to know his house. After my fourth child, I underwent a permanent birth control method, so I can’t have children again and there’s no pregnancy scare. But I feel guilty about the affair. This 28-year-old guy has awakened something in me, something I thought I had lost. He is too good at what he does and I have found myself daydreaming about him many times. I can’t wait to leave work to meet him at his place. It’s just too much for me.
One day I asked him if he has charmed me because I don’t like how I behave like a helpless child around him. I have told him we should end it, but the moment he starts touching me, I cannot control myself anymore. He has a girlfriend, but he said older women are his type and anytime I meet him, I give him something small in addition to the money my husbee gives him monthly. My husband is so busy that he hasn’t noticed anything Hmmm, please no bashing me or anything but I think I need help. I know I have to end it. But how to go about it is the problem because it’s like the moment I see the guy I get h*rny and it doesn’t even make sense to me.
