My husband and I have been married for ten years. We have three daughters and I am expecting a fourth. My husband has an obsession for making sure their family name transcends generations and never ends. His dad repeated it to him several times and now my husband has become so obsessed with that. My husband’s mother died because of complications in delivery. The painful part is that, both mother and the baby died. That was her sixth pregnancy. She had a lot of miscarriages and in the end, it was only my husband and his sister who were born alive. I read a story here where the husband was forcing her wife to give birth to more children to comprehensate for his mother having only him. In my case, my husband needs a son to ensure the family name doesn’t end and this is affecting our marriage.
My husband has become a very moody person. This became apparent when we went to check the gender of the baby I am carrying and it was a girl. He was so annoyed that he even informed his father and the old man was disappointed. As if I am the one who creates human beings or genders. I believe that children are gifts from God and I love all my daughters with all my heart. My husband is now telling me that after having this fourth child, we should try for a fifth or else he will have to impregnate another woman to have a son. I was beyond shocked. Both of us agreed that this fourth child I am carrying will be our last.
Now I am wondering if this man ever loved me or thinks about my welbeing. His mother died trying to give birth to more children and he is doing the exact same thing. I know how some events can repeat themselves in families so anytime I am in labour, I am filled with even more fear. All I have been doing during this pregnancy period is praying that I deliver safely and have my child. I have decided that I will not have another child after this. I am willing to divorce my husband if he shows any signs or cheating because he would have broken our trust and the vows he said to me and I will not allow myself to be a victim. I have spoken to my family about what is happening and my uncles and his family will be sitting down to talk about it. Thankfully, my uncles agree with me. It is not my fault that our children are only girls. There is nothing wrong with having only female children.
I am just so burdened by all of this and I wanted a place to share this problem. I am open to receive any additional advice from everyone who will read this.
