Where do I even start from? How can I share this story? Some men are just wicked and I don’t care if anyone disagrees with me. This is a man I turned other men down for. This is a man I chose to love and stay with, yet he has ignored the vows we shared. My husband of four years has made a confession to me and I feel sick. It feels like I have experienced the worst betrayal ever. We have a son together and not once has he given any hint that he was knacking one of his work colleagues behind my back. The worse part is that the lady is now pregnant. She is unmarried and somehow, people have gotten to know that it’s my husband’s child.
How do some of you women feel comfortable with sleeping with another woman’s husband? Is this even fair? A man who has stood on the altar and made vows to stay faithful to his wife. How can you sleep with him and be comfortable? Don’t you even have a conscience? It pains me that I was one of the last people to find out that my husband had a mistress and that she was even pregnant. He has been begging me to stay for us to talk things out, but I will never allow myself to be treated like this. I have packed my things and left home for a while to my parents house. I need time to think about the future of our marriage. He has been visiting my parents house everyday after work to apologise. He wants my father to plead for me, but I’m grateful that I have parents who are mature and enlightened enough to give me the space I need.
My son is with me. I am glad he is not old enough to understand what his father has done and what is going on. On weekends he comes for his son and spends some time with him. I dated him for four years and I have never denied him s*x, so it hurts even more when I think about what he has done. Now, my husband’s family is putting pressure on my father to speak to me to come back home and the funny thing is they are even threatening to annul the marriage if I don’t come back soon. They are behaving as if I had done the wrong thing, as if I am the one who is at fault here. No one has reprimandeded my husband for impregnating a work colleague.
Why is our culture so lenient towards the men? I had an aunt who told me that I should give my husband more s*x to make sure he doesn’t cheat again. She said it as if I did something to make my husband cheat. This is not fair to women. At this point I have decided that if my husband cannot get his people to understand I am hurt and I need more time to think, he can go ahead and get a divorce. I will not be manipulated and treated badly. I hope I am not doing anything wrong.
