My husband lost his job three years ago and I have been the one handling our finances for all these years. I work as a momo agent and it hasn’t been easy at all for me. I’m always borrowing money and because of this I can’t even get any profit from the work I’m doing. Poverty has affected my relationship with my husband. We’re fighting all the time because my husband is not making any effort to try and get a job to help ease the burden on me. He can watch T.V from morning till evening. He has been very hard to live with and I don’t know how we survive everyday.
I have been letting our three children pass by my sister’s place after school so she can give them food and that’s how we have been managing small small. Along the line I met this man. He came to withdraw some money and he became my regular customer. The man said he likes me and I told him I’m married, but he hasn’t stopped pursuing me. He would give me money randomly and tell me to take care of myself. I didn’t want any trouble, so I informed my husband about him. I told him I’ll speak to the man to see if he can get a job for him to do. My husband’s response wasn’t encouraging to me. He was quiet for a while and then he told me he will think about it.
That night he asked me a lot of questions about the man. Like how long he has been coming to do momo transactions and if he is very rich and all that. I was wondering where all of this was going when he dropped the bombshell. My husband has told me to lead the man on for at least a year. He said I should try and make him establish me within that time and then I can end things with him. I asked him if he was okay with another man having s*x with his wife and he said it’s not something I’ve never done before. Several years ago when we were dating, I cheated once on him and he found out. That was the only incident but now he is using it to tell me I have done it before so it’s no big deal.
I feel like this is wrong in every possible way. My husband is using me to fuel his laziness and to keep him jobless. I’m also suspecting him of cheating on me because no man will be okay with his woman sleeping with another man. He has told me to make sure I use protection because if I get pregnant within this time, he will know it’s not his. I don’t know who to tell this to and I have told my husband I won’t do it. But the pressure on my finances is too much and I don’t know if divorcing him is the best option. My husband has proven that he doesn’t respect me or the vows he said eight years ago. Our three children are very young but I am capable of taking care of them on my own. That’s how it’s been for years anyway. Am I making the right decision by deciding to divorce my husband?
