Some marriages are just hanging by a thread. Mine is that way and I’m not even bothered to say it. My wife and I are just tolerating each other because of the three children we have to take care of. It’s just funny how we both don’t want to divorce because we were both raised by single mothers and we want our children to be raised in a typical traditional family where both parents are present because we both didn’t have that. I have been following the anonymous confessions page on Facebook for some time now and I must say that some of you are too quick to judge people’s stories. You could even be doing worse. I cheated on my wife with one girl I met at a beach.
So the thing is, from primary school to JSS, I lived in the same area with four other male friends of mine. We were in the same class and we went home together. We played football together and even shared our mothers’ food. Senior Secondary School separated us and we all went to different schools. I left thst area as well and I didn’t hear from them in years until we lost one of our other schoolmates and met at the funeral. We spent hours catching up and chatting about old times behind some beer bottles and we created a whatsapp group right there. Now our friendship is stronger than ever. We meet every Friday or Saturday to have fun. Only one out of the five of us is not married and our marriages are facing problems. We don’t see anything wrong with going out to get a couple of drinks and grind on a few chicks.
One Saturday we decided to change the routine a little and go to the beach instead of the Osu pubs. I hooked up with one girl and had a quickie with her in my car. It was late and we found a secret place to park my car and get on with it. My friends were at the beach and they didn’t notice me when I vanished with the girl. I’m not proud of what I did and I’ve been having issues with my wife but this wasn’t the best way out. The cheating incident happened about two years ago. I have never seen the girl after that and I’m not sure I’ll recognize her now If I do. Wifey and I are not happy in the marriage but I have vowed never to cheat again although she punishes me by depriving me of s*x. My friends and I still go out on weekends although we have reduced the frequency to once a month unless it’s a holiday or one of our birthdays.
Now here is the issue, I have suspected my wife of cheating for a while. She is very protective of her phone and I have noticed it. I have been watching her unlock her phone for a while and I was able to see her pin one time. So when she was taking her bath, I unlocked her phone and went through it. Guys, this is no joke. My wife is sleeping with one of my friends, the ones I go out with to drink beer and have fun. The whatsapp chats are very long I kept scrolling up and reading. That friend of mine knows all about my marital affairs and he even advices me to stop suspecting my wife of cheating. He is also married and he has told me he doesn’t care much about what his wife does in secret so I should leave my wife alone.
I found out about this some months ago and I haven’t confronted any of them. I go out with my paddies like we normally do and nothing has changed. My friends seldom meet my wife. The last time they saw her was when I invited them over for my second daughter’s birthday party. Now I don’t know why I’m not pissed. My friend is sleeping with my wife and I have found out, but I am acting very calculated about the whole thing. I am watching them closely to find the right time to get them. I don’t want to hurt the kids in the process and I also feel slightly guilty because I have also cheated but I didn’t do it with any of my friends’ wives. That’s not how the bro code works. I just need an advice on what to do next. I know some of you will bash me and that’s understandable, but keep the bashing on the low. Peace ✌️