My guy and I have been going steady for about two years. We’re both hustling to make it in this country and although we both have shortcomings we are trying to make it work. One major problem I have with him is that he is too much of a party animal and too outgoing, I am not kidding. He reads signs into everything. He creates scenarios that does not exist and many times I just ignore him. But sometimes it’s too much and I have been trying to change him but for the past four years that we have known each other and the two years we have dated, he has been the same. I am not a quiet girl, far from that. But my partner is ‘too much’. He has to attend every party his boys organize or every wedding or funeral. Unless he doesn’t hear there is an event somewhere. He will organize his boys right now and they will go.
If he doesn’t go clubbing on friday and Saturday nights, then probably he might be sick. He doesn’t miss clubbing at all and sometimes he gets so drunk that he cannot drive home and his friends drop him off. He cannot be in a place for a while on his own without getting bored or fidgety. We cannot sit down and enjoy a peaceful time together like watch a movie or even make plans as lovers who are thinking about tomorrow. For him, he should always be up and about, cracking jokes for everyone to laugh at a party or discussing politics and football. His voice is husky and always the loudest and when I point these things out to him he gets angry and it creates a fight between us. He said if I can’t accept that this is how he is, I can leave him.
When we are home, he always invites his boys over and they play loud music and drink a lot of alcohol. There is no silent time at home, maybe that will be in the midnight when he is sleeping. He has also been inviting area boys to our room to be playing fifa and I get so furious over this but I can’t do anything about it. He is the one everyone in the area knows and he enjoys the attention. I know that sanguines are like that. But I am also a sanguine and so is my brother. We enjoy going out, but there are times when we like to have boundaries too. My partner’s situation is different. I don’t know what type of sanguine he is because its too much for me to handle. I also feel like he is not willing to work on his lack of boundaries and because of that we cannot be on the same page.
This is a man I love, but I’m wondering if this issue is enough reason for us to break up. The possibility of us breaking up scares me a lot because I really love him. Maybe that is why I keep trying to overlook his overly loud behavior. Any thoughts?
