My husband’s attitude is getting out of hand. I don’t think I can handle him anymore. As adults, alcohol is normal. We all drink occasionally and that is fine. But his own has become something else. He is always drinking and giving me problems because of the drinking. I am 45 years and he is 48. We have a seventeen year old son and fourteen year old daughter. I don’t like how my husband is showing them that drinking alcohol is normal. The example he is giving them is not a good one and we argue over this thing over and over again. He wasn’t a heavy drinker. If he was I will never have married him. We used to go out during dating and drink wine. That was the only period we both drunk. Now he is always drinking Vody. The cans are all over our house. It’s so bad.
It’s not only the drinking. My husband has started betting too. At first it was ghc2 and I didn’t care because ghc2 is not a lot of money and he was winning small small. Later he started doing ghc100. I don’t really know how this betting thing works but he does it on his phone and it’s so irritating. Our TV got spoilt and we both decided to bring money to buy a new one because the fault from this one was from the screen and the screen is expensive so we are planning to buy a new one which is almost ghc2000. Can you people believe that my husband has taken ghc500 out of the ghc1500 we have so far to do bet? The annoying thing too is that he lost the money. When he returned that day, he was so drunk that he couldn’t walk well.
My son has also started betting. He and his father have been doing it and the last time he told me because I forced him to. I don’t like this at all and I have spoken to the boy but I feel like my husband is the one who is fuelling all of this because I don’t like what he is teaching our children. We have our separate accounts and a joint account. It’s not easy, but we have tried to be putting a percentage of our salaries into it every month which mainly goes towards the kids fees and education. It has really helped us a lot even though we have had challenges too. I noticed that the money has been reducing. My husband said he was using the money to fix one of our small cars to be used as uber. It was all a lie and I have gotten to know that he bets with it. I cannot work hard and let him use our family money like that. My money is also part and its not fair to me and the children.
The drinking and gambling is getting worse and his sisters are even on my side. I want to leave him and take care of the children without him. He is a bad influence and I don’t want any of my children, especially my son to follow his footsteps. As a woman I have endured his alcoholic lifestyle and verbal abuse for eighteen years and I am tired!
