My girl of five years is travelling out of the country and I don’t know what to do. This thing will destroy our plans and everything. I love this girl and I can’t watch her go because distance relationships do not work. Only a few out of the many actually work. The other thing also is that, she is not sure she will return to Ghana. Her dad is permanently there and this time he wants his daughter to come and stay with her. I have asked my girl what she thinks and she herself is confused amd is weighing her options. On one hand, she is excited about going to the US, I mean which Ghanaian wouldn’t? On the other hand she is sad I won’t be going with her.
She has promised that when she gets there and becomes a citizen, she will come and marry me and take me, but those are mere promises and a lot of things change. That place is a whole different environment. She will go and meet different guys there and many of them may even be better looking than me or give her far more than I can give her. Also, being far apart will be very difficult. How will I satisfy my s*xual urges with her in a whole different continent and how will she do same? For the past 5 years, we have been very close and we have done everything together. I also don’t want to be a selfish guy and think about myself alone because this is about her happiness, but I just can’t help it. I cannot lose her at this time of my life when we have made many plans together.
I wish I can marry her before she goes but my financial situation right now is not good and I am not even sure I will be able to provide the things in the marriage list her family will provide for me not to talk about organizing a whole wedding ceremony. This news has affected me greatly because I cannot imagine living my life without my girl by my side. We can do video calls and all that, but it’s just not the same. Her mother is in Ghana and she knows me very well. But at this point, there is nothing she can do because even though she is very fond of me, she believes her daughter will be happy when she travels outside and meets her dad. She also knows there are better opportunities there so it is better for her daughter to go.
I’m 31, she is 26. I am in a fix right now fam. I don’t want to let her go. Being in a relationship for five years is not easy. We have been through it all and this thing hurts like crazy and I don’t know what to do. If she is to go, it will mean that we have just a few months together. That’s not fair to me and I can’t even process her absence. My brother said I should just end it with her and let her go because when she gets there, she will leave me and although I see his reasoning, I don’t want to accept it. I just don’t know what to do right now.
