I feel like my wife waits for odd midnight hours before deciding to wake me up to tell me she needs waakye or roasted corn. Sometimes, roasted plantain. At 2:00am. I mean it’s too much. Other times too when she can’t sleep and sees me sleeping, she would wake me up in the middle of the night so we both don’t sleep. I am really trying but it’s not easy for me at all. So the stories I heard about women’s behaviour during pregnancy are not lies. I am not heartless and insensitive. I know that my wife is going through a lot carrying our baby. This is our first child and I understand that the first time may be the most difficult time because we both haven’t done this before and we are now trying to figure it all out. But at this point I’m wondering if we will be able to have a second child.
Both of us are young, 24 years of age. We were high school sweethearts and we have dated since then until we married last year. My mum even said we should wait a bit before getting married since we are still young, but I didn’t see the need to wait any longer. My dad supported me all the way and he paid for the whole wedding. The thing is now I regret impregnating my wife this early. We should have enjoyed the marriage for at least two years before having kids. But all the same I am glad I will be a father soon. When my wife told me she was pregnant, I was so overjoyed we went out to celebrate the good news. We also called our parents who jubilated over it. It was all good news. But our parents should have given us a heads up that the next couple of months was going to be rough.
I wanted my wife to go and stay with her mum, she said she didn’t want that. I also suggested that her mum should come and stay with us. She started crying on me saying that I can’t trust her to take care of the pregnancy on her own. My wife is always emotional. It’s like she is waiting to cry at the least chance and I can’t handle her constant crying. Medically, there is nothing wrong with the pregnancy. The baby is healthy but my wife’s emotions and demands are really stressing me. But thankfully her mum has come to stay with us two days ago. I thought this will change things, but it hasn’t changed much. One day around 10pm. I was tired, I had just taken a bath after work and I was ready to sleep. She said I should go and fry egg for her and add Vitamilk to it. We had other drinks in the fridge but Vitamilk wasn’t part. I told her she can have malt and I will fry the egg for her. Her mum was asleep so I didn’t want to worry her.
My wife said she will eat fried egg and Vitamilk, no other drink. So i had to dress up and go and look for Vitamilk for her. When I came back she was asleep. After all the stress I went through Hmmm. One other time too it was khebab. It’s like her cravings come in the evening more than day time. Around the same 10 pm. When I returned with the Khebab, she said she meant the sausage the Khebab people sell. I begged her to just eat the khebab and she started getting emotional. So I had to go back and get her sausage. When I got there sausage had finished. That night we both didn’t sleep until daybreak. She said she couldn’t sleep without eating that particular sausage and her complaints didn’t make me sleep either. She is in her second trimister now and I can’t wait for her to deliver so we can all be happy with the arrival of our baby. In the meantime, what are some things I can do to help with her cravings?
