My boyfriend doesn’t trust me. His jealousy has just gone over the roof this time and I don’t know what to do to make him trust me. I am a 27-year-old woman. I am not someone who brags, but I know I am very beautiful. I cannot count the number of times people have told me or ogled over me when I step out. I have had very big men make advances towards me at events. I will be lying if I tell you that I don’t enjoy the attention. I do.
I have been with quite a number of men. Some of them are even old enough to be my father. But at 27, I have learnt a lot of lessons in my past relationships to just play around. I know my beauty will fade. I don’t need anyone to tell me that. My Lebanese mother who was once like a beauty queen is now growing old, so I know that. Unfortunately my man’s insecurities is spilling over the joy and peace in our relationship. I have had many proposals and I keep getting them. But my boyfriend is the one I have chosen to be with. He is serious-minded, calm, very intelligent and of cos rich. But his insecurity is a major turnoff now and I don’t know what to do.
His friends keep teasing him and asking him how he got lucky with me. One of them said he has hit a jackpot with me and they all goof over this. But he doesn’t laugh when they make these jokes because he feels like I am having a lot of men lined up to date me and I will leave him at anytime. The problem is that I am sanguine. I have a naturally outgoing personality. I am the literal definition of ‘life of the party’. So when we step out, I draw a lot of attention. I can’t stop men from flirting or making advances. But I tell them that I am in a serious relationship. I have endured this attitude from my boyfriend for almost a year. But recently, things have gotten out of hand.
He has started stalking me. Following me secretly to be sure I am going to work or to a female friends place. I met a male friend at an event one time and he hugged me. My guy angrily confronted the friend I hugged and at the end it became a major argument. He left me in the event when I didn’t want to go home with him after the argument. This is too extreme. How can a relationship thrive on such distrust and jealousy? I have never questioned his whereabouts and never looked through his phone. But his attitude is putting me off.
I know he goes through my phone. I know he randomly asks my female friends about where I am even when he knows where I am. He is driving away my male friends, even those who do not have any romantic motives. People tell me to leave him. But the truth is, upon all my suitors, he is the one I love. There are many guys who are richer than him, those who are more good-looking. But he is the one I have chosen to be with. The sad thing is that he wasn’t this jealous when we met. His distrust is relatively new and I don’t know how to bring back the early stages of our relationship.
Why can’t he just trust me? Is it my fault that so many men are chasing me? What should I do to give him the certainty that I am staying by his side?