I cheated on my wife with her friend and she found out. Now there is no peace in my house. She literally finds fault with everything I do and she is quick to point out the cheating at any small chance she gets. She even went as far as reporting me to our families. I had to apologize to her in front of her parents and other elders. It was very embarrassing. What happened was that her best friend who lived in Bono region got a job offer in Kumasi so she came to stay with us temporarily whiles she was looking for a place to rent. I didn’t start out chasing her friend because I knew I was a married man. She is very attractive, but I wasn’t focused on her. But it is difficult to resist a temptation that is constantly in your house. Even more so when your wife is always tired and wouldn’t let you touch her. I don’t know if her friend always wanted me to sleep with her or not, but it happened during the time I was on leave and my wife was leaving for work early. She will go and drop off the kids at school and then continue to work.
We were both alone in the house. She would wear some very revealing or tight dresses in the house. So I started responding by also walking shirtless and in just my boxer shorts. We both knew what we wanted, so we started doing the do. It felt very adventurous and fun. I started looking forward to the time when my wife will leave for work and I will have her friend to myself. Her job offer was starting the following month so we had time to have fun. The following month came, she started going to work. I also resumed work. Soon, she got a place to rent and left, but we were still chatting and meeting on weekends at coded locations. I wasn’t smart enough. My wife found our chats on my phone one time and that was the end of me.
She and her friend had a very heated argument on the phone and they are not in talking terms now. She is also angry. I have apologised so many times that I don’t know what to do anymore. I have promised her it won’t happen again and that she can check my phone from time to time. But my wife’s anger is not waning. The worse thing is that she has been denying me sex since she found out. It has been almost two months and I feel like i’m dying without it. Meanwhile her friend is in my Twitter dms wanting us to meet for fun. I am trying hard to be faithful to my wife and to start again on a clean slate. But her inability to forgive my cheating is pushing me further away from her and I am finding it difficult to ignore her friends constant messages in my dms.