My boyfriend takes care of his mum more than he takes care of me. In which world is this fair? I stay with him, I do everything for him. But he sends more money to his mother every week than the money he gives me.
I am a young woman. I need to be taken care of. Women show their love through submission and service. If we love a man, we do things for him. We cook for him, we perform wifely duties. We make ourselves available for sex. I do basically all of this for him. We are practically married. We just haven’t made it official. I have been forcing him to marry me and although the wedding hasn’t happened yet, I really love him. I have loved him for the past seven years of dating him and it won’t change. We live in a rented 2 bedroom apartment. He has plans of building his own house very soon because his job pays him well although it’s stressful.
Now that money has started flowing, he is not doing what I expect him to do. All he gives me is money to cook and to sought out other things in the house. Anytime he comes home from work, his food would have been ready, waiting for him. I have kept my end of the bargain. But instead of giving me enough money to buy wigs, nails, bags, shoes and other stuff, he sends a lot to his mother. We have fought over this issue several times and I have never known him to be a mummy’s boy. The only explanation he gives is that his mother has sacrificed a lot in raising him. I know she has done well as a single mother. I am not saying he shouldn’t send any money to his mother. But at least he should reduce the money he sends to her so that he can also appreciate me for what I am doing.
It takes a lot of sacrifice for a woman to forget about her dreams and even her family and give her whole being to a man. That is exactly what I have done. But my boyfriend doesn’t seem to appreciate it. I wanted to pack out for a while for him to feel my absence and appreciate what I do, but I am scared he will easily find another woman to replace me and that will be very unfair to me for all these years of hardwork. With all of this going on, I’m wondering how he will treat me when we finally tie the knot and I become his wife. He will still choose his mother over me and send her the money we will need to take care of home. How will he behave when kids come into the picture? Will he still give his mother the priority? I feel like I am in a fix right now and I just don’t know what to do.