My wife was classmates with this very famous Ghanaian musician. He is good-looking too. Since the time I met my wife, I haven’t ceased to hear stories about some things the musician did in his childhood days. It’s always as if she wants to prove to me that she really was in the same SHS with the guy. This has even created a misunderstanding between the two of us many times. I was tired about hearing about the guy and I just lashed out at her one day when she was going on and on and on about him. I have caught her stalking him on social media and looking through his pictures. We had another argument because of this. Her position has always been that I’m just overreacting and as far as the said musician is a celebrity, I should understand.
My wife’s obsession with the celebrity became too serious that I asked one of her friends who was also an old school mate about her relationship with the guy. I wanted to know if they had dated before. My wife denies it anytime I ask her. Her friend also said the two were just friends and as far as she knows, nothing like that happened between them. I should have known that women talk a lot. My wife’s friend who I asked this question to went behind my back to inform my wife that I had reached out to her to ask her. My wife confronted me with this thing and insulted me. She was pregnant at that time, so I just allowed her to say anything she wanted to say. Because of my wife, I started following the musician and it wasn’t surprising to see her commenting under all his pictures. At a point, I felt I was being petty so I tried to ignore all of it and just focus on loving my wife and my now 2 year old son.
Along the line, wifey came to inform me that one of their mates was very sick. He said the person has been seriously sick for a long time and they have been contributing money for her. Now they wanted to go and visit her. I didn’t ask her if the musician will be there. It crossed my mind, but I didn’t ask her to create any quarrel. She went and came back. That evening, I saw pictures of the said visit on her friend’s status. The guy was there and in the pictures, he was very close to my wife. He was even holding her waist in one of the pics. I asked my wife and all hell broke loose. She has a very sharp tongue and she gets very defensive at everything. You can’t even ask her about something. The moment she started her plenty talking and insults, I went into the room and stayed there.
We didn’t talk about this thing for sometime but her classmate died. The one who they contributed for and went to visit. I wanted to go to the funeral with her, she said no. I allowed her to go on her own. After she returned, she was always making calls here and there. Previously, she never excused herself when a call came for her. Sometimes, she will be so loud on the phone that I will tell her to excuse herself. But these days, she quickly leaves my presence when she sees a particular number. I started watching her closely and I was eavesdropping on the conversations. Now here’s the thing. My wife is three months pregnant with our second child. I don’t have strong evidence that he is cheating, except the calls. One time I heard her say that she misses the one she is talking to. Usually it’s the other person doing all the talking and she laughing.
I don’t want to do anything that will affect my son or the unborn baby. I have done a DNA on my son without her knowledge and he is mine. I don’t know about the unborn baby. I don’t know if she has done anything with her celebrity classmate. The guy himself is rumoured to be a womanizer, but I’m very sure she loves him and not me. I’m trying to use my head and not my emotions because if I use my emotions, I may get violent with her and it’s something I have told myself I will never do. One of her school mates is into cocktail and mixing of drinks at events. I lied to my wife that I wanted his contact to send to my friend who needs his service and she has given me the guy’s contact. I want to ask him about the relationship between my wife and the guy during their school time or if he knows anything now. Since he is a man like me, I feel like he will be more open. Am I making the right decision?