Hi. I need help. I’m a 34 year old married woman with 3 children. I have always been a keep fit type of girl and I used to be in shape and health-conscious before I started giving birth. After 3 children, I gained so much weight. Even to the extent of people showing surprise when they see me now as compared to my wedding pictures. It started affecting my self-esteem and I decided to do something about it. I got a gym membership in my neighbourhood and signed up for it. My husband didn’t have a problem with it at first. He knows me well and I was going to workout early in the morning before anyone in the house woke up. I started working out two years ago. When my last child was 6 months. At the beginning, I will go and do my own thing and leave when time was up, but later this guy volunteered to be helping me out. He was one of the trainers. If you needed his assistance, you had to pay for it.
For some reason, he was taking me through the reps with no cost. The guy was also married. We started getting very close to the point that I saw that his intentions was not right for the both of us. I was also developing feelings for him. He was good-looking and fit and it wasn’t easy with him being close to me all the time. Later, we decided for our own good, we will stay away from each other and he won’t train me again. Even with that it was difficult. Later, I stopped seeing him at the gym and I learnt that he had gone to contest in a foreign bodybuilding competition in another country. I was a bit sad that he didn’t even tell me, but I knew it was for the best. I kept going nonetheless and I can say that I have lost a lot of weight now. My husband thinks my current weight is enough and I should stop going, but I am working hard to regain the physique I had before our marriage.
In August, the trainer returned to Ghana and we have been meeting ourselves at different locations outside the gym. He got divorced from his wife and I didn’t even know. He has expressed his love for me claiming he cannot keep me off his mind. I know very well that I am married with kids, I know it’s not right for us to even meet at these places and I have not been to the gym in over 2 weeks now. But I play with myself a lot and I imagine him all the time when I do it. My husband tries, but he doesn’t satisfy me, although I have never told him about it. He also doesn’t know that I play with myself when I’m alone. The bodybuilder and I have been exchanging pics and I don’t even know what I’m doing to myself. At this point, we’re burning for each other and it will only take one mistake to fall.
I wanted us to move to another location, but where we are is very good for us and my husband will not understand why I want us to move. If I tell him, he won’t understand and he’ll think I have already cheated. I have told the guy to please leave me alone, but anytime I tell him that, he pushes more. He sends me more pics and videos of himself and I am finding it difficult to look away. I have blocked him twice, but he always uses a different number to reach out to me. As for changing my number, It will be hard. All my customers know it and even if I change it, I am bound to meet him in the area. Please if you were me, how will you handle this? It’s not as if I hate the guy. It’s just that I’m afraid of how I feel when I’m around him. And he knows I’m trying to resist him so he has taken advantage of that. Any suggestions please?
