I don’t even know where to begin from. I loved this guy. We had dated for 2 years and things were going on well for us. In October, I was admitted at the hospital after getting typhoid fever. The doctor who was handling the day shift was very friendly with me and he gave me his personal contact. He told me he doesn’t do that with his patients but he really wanted to see me get better. I got better and then was discharged. I went for a few check ups and I was done. The doctor friend I made used to send me medical advice on whatsapp. When I post my picture on my status, he will reply the status within minutes and compliment me. Sometimes he’ll just reply with some love emojies.
It’s normal for guys to be like that with me so I didn’t think he was serious. But somewhere in early November, he told me he had closed from work and I should meet him in front of the hospital. It’s a private hospital in my neighbourhood so it wasn’t far. When I got there, he met me and then we sat in his car and that’s where he opened up to me. He said all this while he has been giving me signs of his feelings for me but I have been ignoring him. He said he likes me and he wants us to date. He knew I was in a relationship. The day my boyfriend brought me to the hospital, he was the doctor on duty and he got to know about our relationship. In our chats on whatsapp, he’ll intentionally ask about my boyfriend as if he wanted to know if we’re still together. I allowed him to tell me about his feelings and when he was done, I told him I was sorry but I was already taken and I can still be his friend but nothing can happen between us.
He agreed to it and we moved on from there. Along the line, my guy also started acting up. I’ll call, he’ll not answer. He won’t call back later too, but he’ll be online on whatsapp and be posting memes on his status. When I tell him about his behaviour, he will say he is okay and he was just occupied. He will apologise to me nicely and do that again. Sometimes I experiment with him. If I don’t message or call, he won’t do it. All this while, the doctor was checking up on me every single day. I stopped hearing from my guy because I stopped calling or checking up on him. I stopped visiting him and for over a month he also didn’t reach out to me. That’s when I decided to give the doctor a chance. We started a relationship and he was so sweet and thoughtful. But within 2 months of being with him, a tenant in his house approached me one day when I was going to visit him and asked me if I was dating the doctor. She said the man has a wife in another region. Although they haven’t done a white wedding, he had done knocking and they have children together.
I didn’t want to believe it and I confronted him with it. Not knowing the doctor wasn’t 29 years as he told me. He was 36. He said he doesn’t want to marry the woman anymore and she was just his baby mama. It’s a long story and I was very broken at that time. Then my guy also called me out of the blue to apologize for being silent for 4 months. His reason was that he was preparing for exams and he wanted to focus. He was doing Masters and now he is done. I’m not bragging or anything, but these two men don’t deserve me. They’re both liars. So I have decided to walk away from both of them.
My big sis who is 33 and unmarried is telling me to manage my first guy because at 27 years, I was nearing 30 and I shouldn’t be walking out of relationships like that. But should I tolerate every bad attitude because I have to marry? My first guy clearly started a relationship with someone else. That’s the reason he started keeping his distance from me. I asked him several times if there was a problem and he kept saying nothing. Why has he suddenly appeared to tell me he was focused on exams? Is that even a good enough reason? As for the doctor, I have already blocked him. His wife is waiting for him at home. Please I just want to know if I am making the right decision by dumping both men. Thank you!