My husband has become something else over the last couple of months and I don’t even know where to begin from. We have been married for five years with two children. The way his work is, they transfer him a lot and he is always travelling. Mostly within Ghana, but sometimes outside Ghana. He is very paranoid and always acting as if I am hiding something from him. I will be at home and his brother will come and visit me and he will be acting as if he is looking aroung to see if there is another man in the house. When my husband is home, his brother will never visit us to check up on us. The moment he travels, he will come unannounced as if he wants to catch me cheating. It’s really not nice.
When I reported this to my mother-in-law, she said if I know I’m not doing anything wrong I shouldn’t be worried about visits from my brother-in-law. So that is not even the reason why I am sharing my story here. My husband returned last week from the Eastern Region and we had s*x the following day. He is saying my woman place is not tight like he left it and he is asking me to confess if I have been with someone before him. I have done no such thing, so out of anger I asked him if he was an expert in checking how tight a woman’s v*gina was and he got angry and we had a serious fight. He said he will not touch me until I confess to him that I have cheated. He is threatening to send me back to my parents’ house if I don’t confess. Meanwhile I haven’t been with anyone. I don’t even m*sturbate or keep a s*x toy.
I have never cheated on my husband before since the time we started dating till now. Yet his behaviour is even making me suspect if maybe he is the one cheating and he is being paranoid and trying to point the fingers at me so that I don’t suspect him. His attitude is so bizarre and the way his mother is behind him and she always encourages him in everything he does is someway. My mother has spoken to my husband and he is telling her to ask me to speak the truth or else he will divorce me. His ‘evidence’ of my cheating is that I am not tight. Which rational human being will even take this explanation? I have a feeling he is seeing a younger girl who is tight and has never given birth before and he is confusing my v*gina to her own. Seriously that is the only explanation I have because the way my husband is disrespecting me because of this issue is affecting me.
The children are young and they don’t have to see how their father insults me in their presence. Please I need advice on what to do because my husband has made the marriage very bitter for me and I don’t know if its even worth staying with such a man. He used to be jealous of me chatting with male friends when we were dating back then but he promised me he will change, so for him to be acting this way is really bothering me. Please advice me.
