My daughter is 23 and she is going out with this guy. I have known about the relationship for a year and I was okay with it. I’m not one to give relationship advice because I impregnated her mother in my teens and denied the pregnancy until I gathered courage when I started working. It took me years to regain the trust of my daughter when I came back to them. My daughter was 15 years old and her mother had influenced her in a way so she didn’t like me. I started buying her things and paying her school fees. It was when she came to spend school vacation with me that she started showing me some love and I was determined not to spoil the chance. When she introduced me to the guy, I only asked her if she was happy with him. She said yes and that is all that mattered to me.
I didn’t see anything wrong with him and he was coming to visit me with my daughter once in a while. One time, some friends and I went out on Friday night. We used to do that a lot, but we have reduced it. We were just moving from one club to the other. That’s when I saw my daughter’s guy in one of the pubs, I was cool at first. But some of the things he was doing was too much. He was drinking and smoking. He became so drunk he couldn’t walk well. I didn’t confront him at the pub. But later I spoke to him in my daughter’s absence. The guy told me I was also there so I shouldn’t judge him. I asked if my daughter knows he smokes and drinks alochol excessively. He said she doesn’t know and that as far as I was there, I wasn’t in the place to judge him. The guy spoke to me very disrespectfully. This guy is not for my daughter. Some of us have lived very reckless lives in our past and we know guys like us when we see that.
This guy is my youth with all the partying life and womanizing. I spoke to my daughter about him and she said she loves him and I shouldn’t come between her happiness. I went back to the pub another time and the guy was grinding on different ladies. I wanted to take pics but the place was somehow dark. I am bent on destroying their relationship because my daughter doesn’t deserve to be with a man like me. I don’t want what happened to her mother to happen to her. This guy will just use her and dump her or even impregnate her and run like I did to her mum. What do I do to separate them in a way that will not make my daughter hate me? It took me years to win back her love. If I also keep quiet, she will get hurt and run back to me and I don’t want that to happen. As for the mother, she is still bitter towards me so we are not on good terms. We just say hi when we have to but that’s all.