I was a third year naïve 22-year-old when I met my sugar mummy. She was 46 at the time, but she was very pretty. She looked at least 10 years younger than her age and yes, I was attracted to her. I had joined a keep fit club on campus and she was already a member of the club. We used to go for jogging on Saturday mornings and some weekdays. We adjusted the schedules every week to suit us. At first, we were not even chatting in person. We were both talkative on the WhatsApp page. The page would have been boring without us on it. At a point she sent me a DM and told me she’s not sure she has met me in person. She asked if I ever come for morning exercises. I told her I was very punctual. We started chatting everyday for that week and on Saturday, we met. I had seen her, but we had never spoken in person until that day. My jaw dropped when she told me her age. I honestly thought she was in her 30s. I would later learn she was divorced with two kids who were outside the country.
This woman was the most open-minded woman I had ever met. She started inviting me out to places I had never been to. Very expensive restaurants. She was straightforward. She wanted me to be her baby. She would take care of me and establish me well. I was young, I needed money. The whole arrangement felt like a dream. This woman was rich and she just wanted to take care of me. All I had to do was to satisfy her in bed. We kept this arrangement for years. After completing school and doing my National Service, she connected me to a friend of hers and I got a good job in a good company. (I wish I can mention the company by name, but it would give too much away).
I started dating my girlfriend when I was doing NSS. We were course-mates and we had become close over the period we were in school. During NSS time, we got serious and started going out. She realized how close I was with my sugar mummy, so when she asked about her, I told her she was my auntie. I also saved her name as Auntie (…..) So my girl wasn’t suspicious. Now I have a stable job. I have a car. I am in a nice apartment and I am 27 years. I want to marry my girl. I want to cut ties with my sugar mummy and start a stable family. Man is growing, so I cannot be playing around like this anymore. I am lucky I got a good girl to stick with me through all these years. If I lose her, I don’t know how I will live the rest of my life. I told my sugar mummy that I wanted out. I even told her I can link her up with younger guys if she likes. But the woman said it is me she wants. She wants us to stay this way. She is willing to increase my daily allowance. All I needed to do was to leave my girl and be with only her. I love this girl and we have dated for long. I don’t want to lose her because if I am being real with myself, there is no future with a sugar mummy. In fact, she has started growing old in my eyes and right now, sex with her is more like a chore than something I enjoy.
But the thing is, she can make me lose my job by making a simple phone call. She can find my girl and tell her the truth that I have been knacking her for five years. She doesn’t have a problem with me knacking younger girls for fun. But her problem is me wanting to commit and marry a younger girl and leave her. For the last few weeks, I have been lying to her. Telling her I was just kidding and that my girl and I are just having fun and there’s nothing more to it. But I want to end things with her. Any advice would be much appreciated.
