My wife and I have been married for ten years. I am 38, she is 36. Our marriage begun smoothly. We were madly in love with each other. But life happened, children started getting in the way. We both had to leave work early and come home late to provide food for the kids. We drifted apart slowly. Petty misunderstandings escalated into serious quarrels where we exchanged very hurtful words. None of us were willing to admit our fault and neither did we want to go for post-marital counselling. We settled into a weird indifference. We were not getting intimate and all we did was have casual conversations like acquaintances.
We barely saw each other on weekdays and during weekends, I went out with my boys and she did what she liked. Anytime I attempted to get intimate at night, she would point out something I did in the past that annoyed her, or she would tell me how tired she was. It was always one excuse after the other. I wanted to get a divorce at a point, but as a child from a broken home, I did not want my kids to go through that. I wanted them to grow up with both parents at home. At least until they are all adults and mature enough to handle a divorce. My wife loved sex in the early years of our marriage. So I don’t know how she suddenly does not want sex at all. There was only one glaring reason. She was cheating on me.
Both of us were secretive with our phones, so no matter how hard I tried, I couldn’t access her chats to even be certain if my doubts were true or now. At a point, I just let things be. I turned to masturbation anytime I was horny and needed a fix. I was masturbating every evening until I met another woman. She was much younger than me and full of life and excitement. I noticed her the moment she came for the interview. I am an administrative assistant in a beverage producing company and she was applying as an HR manager. She was very beautiful, had all the curves in the right places. I couldn’t take my eyes off her but I couldn’t master the courage to take her contact after the interview. I was only hoping and praying that she was hired.
My prayers were answered shortly after the interview. I didn’t hesitate to begin a friendship with her when she started working. She was witty and humorous and I felt at home in her presence. We started having sex. It felt so easy and natural. We both knew we wanted it and as a spinster living alone in her rented apartment, I was good company. My wife may have noticed I was cheating but she didn’t appear to care. I was certain she was too, so I was comfortable with my new found source of pleasure. She knew I was married. I shared a lot of issues I was having in my marriage with her and she became the home I was looking for. She never asked for money or even appeared to need it, but I had fallen head over heels for her, and as men providing our loved ones with money and gifts are some of the ways we show love.
I allocated ghc1000 for her in my monthly budget and I sent her that every month. In addition, I bought a new 56 inch TV and sofas for her. When her Tecno fell into water and didn’t function, I bought her an Iphone 11 pro. When her uncle needed money to undergo surgery, I tapped into my investments and paid a huge sum of money for the surgery. I was emptying my bank account for her and I didn’t notice what a fool I was being. One other colleague at work noticed how close we had become and warned me about dating such young girls. Especially as a married man, but I saw him as overreacting and I was justifying my actions, claiming that my wife was also cheating when I didn’t have any proof.
One day, I decided that I wanted to marry her. I told my wife I needed a divorce and she was willing to grant me the divorce. But I don’t know if this was divine providence or luck, but I saw a flyer of a wedding invitation. It was my girlfriend. The same girl I had spent a lot of money on. She knew she was going to get married yet she was urging me to divorce my wife and marry her. I confronted her and she defiantly laughed in my face. It took all the strength in me to not hit her. She played me. I am just glad I did not divorce my wife. I have decided to work hard and repair my marriage.