My parents are disapproving of my woman because they think she is not wife material. The woman is an ambitious career woman. Dressing well and using a lot of makeup and accessories is part of her job. She can cook and as a forward-thinking man I don’t even expect her to serve me in the traditional way my parents are expecting of her. My mother and father are still together. That kind of marriage worked for them. The one where the woman was a housewife and did all chores in the house and the man went to work and provided money.
But times have changed. My parents want to continue with this cycle because it worked for them. But I cannot agree to that arrangement. I am attracted to career women. I have always been. My parents just wont see reason. They asked her if she was willing to be a stay at home wife if we were to get married. She confidently said no. She is a graduate, pursing an MBA program now. She is even more ambitious than I am and to be honest, it is one of the things that attracted me to her. Many men shy away from such women. They may look intimidating, but they are my type and my ex was similar. My parents attitude was one of the reasons why I had to part ways with my ex. This time, I don’t want to repeat such a mistake.
A woman’s place is not in the kitchen. Those days are long gone. Women are doing very well in corporate settings and should be encouraged. My dad has threatened to disown me if I do not heed to his warnings and marry a ‘humble’ girl who ‘will have time for our future kids’. My mother has done what she always did; agree with my dad, even if she did not entirely like the idea. Her parents know about this issue and they have tried to convince my parents, but it has not worked. I was so desperate to be with this woman that I even suggested we elope. That was a stupid idea. Our jobs are here. Our families are here. I wish my parents will see how resourceful my woman is. How caring she is. Her hard work and drive is just incredible and I cannot see myself leaving such a woman for another.
People say that there are many women out there. But sometimes you just meet someone and you know that you cannot leave them. Some people are just worth risking everything for and that is the situation I am in right now. I am between my parents and the woman I love. The reason they are rejecting her sounds so trivial to me. But these old folks are so set on their ways that they have refused to see reason. They have refused to accept that the world is constantly changing. I just don’t know what to do now.
